Saturday, July 21, 2012

The birth: December 20, 2011

Dear Olive,

We went to the hospital for an 8 am appointment Monday, December 19 to see how you were since we are so far past your due date. The doctor checked us out and by about 9 am he said "well I hope you packed a few things because you are going to have this baby".

Daddy and I were so happy! They started inducing and right away contractions began (I realised I had actually had one or two yesterday but didn't know!) and kept going for a long time. By about 11pm that night we were no closer to you coming out and the doctor decided we needed a Caesarian section to get you here safely.

They wheeled me down the hall to the operation room with daddy dressed in scrubs and at 12:26 am Tuesday, December 20th you were born! You cries out when they pulled you out and I got to hear your voice for te first time ever! It was the best thing I have ever heard in my life baby. I actually recognized your cry even though neither of us had heard it before. Thy cleaned you up and handed you to daddy to show you to me as I was still on the operating table while they closed me up. Your little face... It was like coming home baby. It was the best moment of my life so far.

I was already in love with you.

Xo mama

December 15, 2011

Dear Baby,

So you are still in there eh? Heehee... you were due last Friday, but due dates are never really accurate and I know when you are ready, you will join us. No pressure. I actually love having you still swimming around in my belly, kicking and rolling in the waves I've provided for you. I know you are safe and happy in there, so take the time you need okay?

We are just so excited to meet you. I can't picture your face yet, but I can picture holding you and its heartbreaking in the most beautiful way imaginable.

I've been trying to keep busy while we wait for you but its hard because I'm home from work and have all day to myself. There are a hundred things I probably should be doing (more cleaning no doubt!) but its hard to stay focused because the thought of you being here makes me forget what I'm doing.

Your nursery looks amazing. I'm going to do some stretches in there this afternoon and hopefully help you figure out the way out! The midwives said you will probably not be born this week (its Thursday, tomorrow you will be one week 'late') so we are hoping next week you will arrive naturally and not have to be induced. Its just a little more complicated that way and I want the very best for you baby, so I hope you will head out on your own :)

Your dad took me out yesterday and has taken such great care of us baby, you will love him so much.

I can't wait to hold you, to rock you to sleep, to watch you sleeping, to finally have you in front of me, in front of us. Its going to be so amazing.

I love you so much baby, and I can't wait to meet you. Hope to see you soon,
so much love, everyday,
Mama.

November 7, 2011

Good morning baby!

I took a bath the other day and was lying still in the water and then you kicked so hard you made a ripple. Your first ripple. I cried it made me so happy.

You seemed to shift a bit Saturday night, it was a long day though so maybe you were just cranky. Either way you seem to be positioned slightly different now, which might mean you are ready to make your way out soon!

In two days we start the 30 day countdown to your arrival, but you are welcome to arrive whenever you please little baby. If you need a few days more in there, not a worry or if you wanna surprise us ahead of time, we're good for that too. We are just so excited to meet you.

Dad worked tirelessly this weekend on your room, he put in pot-lights which really warm up the space and even surprised me with a light in your closet! Its been a lot for him to take on because he's all new to this, and I couldn't be prouder of him. You are one lucky little girl to get him as your dad. :)

As for me, I'm REALLY pregnant looking now, which is kind of adorable. I hope that if you choose to one day have your own babies your pregnancy is as wonderful as mine has been. On top of the indescribable feeling of you swimming around in my belly, the side effects of pregnancy have been largely awesome (thicker hair, longer nails, glowy skin, its pretty great). The best part of course is getting to know your little movements. Its really a sensation that I'm surprised more women don't go on and on about. I'm actually going to miss you in there, where I know you are protected and cared for all day and night and where I feel even the slightest movement to know when you're awake or sleeping or have the hiccups :)

We signed up for private prenatal classes and a woman named Bonnie is going to come to the house to help teach us how to bring you into the world, how to feed and care for you and basically to help us learn what its going to be like to be your parents! We are pretty excited :) and the first class is on Wednesday, the same day we start counting down to December 9, your due date.

That's it for now little one, I feel you kicking as I'm writing this, I hope you are having a great morning too :)

xoxo mama

November 2, 2011

Dear Olive,

Its November now. You are going to be here in a month! That is so crazy! Its almost impossible to imagine being this excited about meeting someone but since you are swimming around in me all day long, its hard not to think about you all the time.

You are kicking harder and harder these days and its awesome to feel. I can tell when you are awake and when you're sleeping and I love it so much I will actually miss being pregnant with you. I will be more excited to know you in person and get to see you, but there is something incredibly special about feeling you in there, wiggling around, dreaming the day away.

I'm getting nervous about the birth but the excitement of you're arrival is so much larger in my mind. We had a baby shower for you on Saturday with our friends at our house. It was wonderful. People brought you so many great things and they are all counting the days to meet you too. It was a woodland theme and we worked on the decorations leading up to it, I will put photos in your baby book so you can see what we did for you. I hope you like it!

Dad and I set up the bassinet you are going to sleep in for the first few months last night. Its from Nana and Papa and it turns into a playpen so you will have for many years. Dad's putting the finishing touches on the change table for us and he's done such a terrific job on it, all learning as he went. Its pretty amazing.

The stroller is ready, the car seat is all set to be installed, the nursery is coming together - all we need now is you little one. And I just can't wait.

Love you so much already,
xo Mama

October 14, 2011

Dear Olive,

I am nervous and excited to meet you. The midwife appointment last week with Alex went really well, we listened to your heart for a long time and you sounded terrific! Tears were streaming down my cheek before I knew it. Then she said "Well, it looks like you'll meet her in about 7 weeks!"

I almost passed out. Seriously baby, you are going to be here so soon!! I can't wait!! Well I can because we still need to get a few things ready in your bedroom, but the idea of meeting you is a feeling I've never experienced in my life. I almost can't describe it but everyone on earth should get to feel this at some point in their lives. Most of the time, you have no idea you are meeting one of the most important people in your life, they just kind of fall into your life unexpectedly and then you realize later what they mean to you. You already mean so much, and are so much to me; and I get to know I'm going to meet you! Its really, honestly a different feeling from anything else I've felt.

When I first met Meg (who you will meet soon too, she's my best friend) I had no idea the incredible impact she would end up having on my life and who I am as a person. She was just another roommate coming to live at Sam's (you will meet him too, another wonderful friend) and I honestly didn't even know if we'd hit it off. Now she is one of the most important people in my life and always will be.

I actually am lucky enough to know YOU are coming into my life and I know when (sort of, you could be here early or late). Its an incredible privilege. I can see there is something awesome about all this 'mom' stuff :)

You are definitely getting squished up in my belly more these days, I feel your bum hitting my right ribcage all the time now (actually even while I am writing this, do you hear me in there?) and the midwife says your head is facing down which is perfect. I feel you kicking a lot and keep trying to find a time when you are kicking that Darryl can feel too, it happens a lot, but of course never as much as he wants :)

He already loves you so much too baby.

xoxo, mom

October 3, 2011

Good morning Olive!

I see we are having a very high kicking morning aren't we? heehee...

You were super busy Saturday, we went to see Aunt Natalie for her 34th birthday, she was very excited to see the bump. We had a little dizzy spell that night, nothing serious though.

Then on Sunday you were really quiet, so I laid down with the dogs to try and wait for your usual movements, which came - but more quietly. Perhaps we tired you out on Saturday.

This morning you were UP with a bang! You've been kicking and shuffling around all morning, particularly in my right ribcage, which causes me to jump a little bit each time! Its pretty funny!

We go to see the midwife this week, and I have a lot of questions about birthing classes.

Your daddy and I also worked on your baby shower invitations this weekend, we put a little fox on the front and wrote "New Critter Arriving" because its going to be a woodland themed party. Just our friends and siblings. In February when you are out here in the world we will have another one with extended family, so they can all see you and adore you :)

I hope you are okay in there baby,
xoxoxo mama

September 29, 2011

I can see you kick now, actually see it. A tiny pop pushing out of my belly. I looked down yesterday while I was working at my computer at work and saw it, a little fist or a tiny foot of yours popping out. It only lasted a second, then it happened again. I watched my belly for the next 20 minutes, barely breathing, to get to see it again.

I am already in love with you.

I am already sad I might not get to stay home with you, every day, forever.

You are already the best adventure I can imagine.

August 15, 2011

Wow - its been a while!

So I have been chatting with you, little girl, and hoping one day soon you will kick hard enough for Darryl to get to feel it :)

In the meantime, I am really enjoying our time together. When I cry, you move (don't worry, I am crying over things like sappy commercials, happy thoughts of meeting you, etc, all good stuff) but its pretty amazing to feel your response and I hope I am not making you worry :)

When we went to have the ultrasound to find out if you are a boy or a girl, right before the sonographer said "Are you ready to find out?" Darryl said "I think its a girl, quick - what do you think hun?" and I said I still had no idea, but when she said "its definitely a girl" I was not surpised at all and I thought I would be :)

We told Nana and Papa that night and Papa said he thought you were a girl and Nana, Nicole and Vanessa all thought you were going to be a boy.

Now that I am starting to look more and more pregnant, I am starting more to prepare for your arrival :). We are thinking about what your nursery will look like and so far I like a woodland theme, how about you? heehee.... and I've started making you a little mobile for over your crib, which I hope you like.

We have been trying out a few names on you (Olive and Ruby are the top contenders) but will probably wait until we meet you to decide.

You are a little more quiet these past two weeks, I guess you are resting more - you have a TON of growing to do in there in the next little while. I promise I will try to take the very best care of you in there.

xo Mom.

June 15, 2011

Told Claire I would help at Convocation and grabbed timbits and a double double from Tim Horton's on the way in because I had to be there for 8am.

Got gowned and was handing out programs when the room got darker and darker and I saw one of the ushers coming towards me asking if I was okay and then I passed out. I only fell against the table and into the wall so I didn't fall right down. Tania had me call the midwive's emergency number and they had stupid Fariba (the evil midwife I fired from my team) call me! What? She was useless, as always, and rude, as per usual so I actually just hung up and called the midwives again. I got a hold of Ivana who said I should come in right away so they could check my blood pressure, etc.

Tania was so amazing. She drove me downtown and waited with me, I met with Ivana who was LOVELY GALORE and she said I was fine, the baby's fine. She said its pretty common when you are used to having a regular breakfast (not donuts and sugary coffee) to have your blood sugar spike and then drop rapidly. She said it happens a lot to newly pregnant women who aren't used to the changes in her body yet. My blood pressure was low but not dangerously low or anything and she said this all made sense based on what I ate and did that morning.

Then she brought out this little machine which looked like a tiny speaker attached to a stethoscope and I got to hear the baby's heartbeat for the first time. It was super fast! 150 beats per minute she said, and that is great! (it should be double mine and between 110 and 160 is ideal!) and I cried I was so happy. Not just that the baby was okay, I could feel it moving around anyways which I always take as a good sign but getting to hear its actual heart was thrilling.

I told Darryl what happened once I had eaten and headed home for the day. I took it easy, some light gardening and playing with the dogs and sleeping for the day. Today I feel a lot better.

I just told Gill I'm pregnant and she was so happy for me. I know she's been trying as long as we did too so I hope its catching for her and she gets pregnant soon too. I know how frustrating it can be to wait and wait. I hope they get pregnant soon because I know how much she wants it and in a selfish way it would be amazing to have someone else I know be pregnant at the same time.

Oh and Ivana said they actually have fired Fariba. So many women complained about her and she said they even lost business because of it! People actually left! I felt so releived to have stood up for myself and demanded she be removed from my team after how badly she treated me. I don't want to revel in someone getting fired but I honestly hate to think of anyone else having to be subjected to that woman. Especially newly pregnant women who are already feeling vulnerable and scared.

I've been feeling the baby swimming around a lot lately! Since the last ultrasound where I was able to connect the fluttering feeling with actually seeing the baby moving around I can tell when she/he is sleeping or moving now! its AMAZING!!!!

I really need to join a pre-natal yoga class so i can have other pregnant women to talk to about all this :)

The beginning

So I started writing at week 9 but I thought I should try to capture more of the previous weeks here too :)

Week 7 and 8 were challenging.
The nausea made it hard to drive to work, almost had to pull over once. Haven't really been throwing up, but the waves of nausea have been a little debilitating and having to pee every 5 minutes is raising a few eyebrows at work, heehee...

Sleep became a bit more difficult but finally got back into a good routine.

Had a wisdom tooth start acting up, saw a new dentist (Dr. Ho, he was adorable!!) and he said "have some popsicles, it will go away on its own" and it did!! Yay!! Good thing too, he wouldn't do an xray (obviously).

Have been reading the baby books and so has Darryl, he seems to be really into it which is such a nice thing. I'm sure I take it for granted but there are probably women out there who don't have the amazing love and support of someone like him and I'm truly thankful for amazing he is and how excited he is about this for us.

During week 6 I had an attempted ultrasound at Karma Ultrasound that didn't show anything (well, didn't show the heart beat because it was too early) it was pretty discouraging but I stayed patient (who me?) and then when we went in again May 3 it was awesome! See another post on this :) and we were in Karma Room #7 for it! Cute and lucky.

I only realised I was pregnant April 2 so I guess I was just 3 weeks along then, between finding out and the first ultrasound it was a blur. A lot of sleeping, and a lot of nausea but so much excitement and anticipation.


May 3 Ultrasound

Had our ultrasound on May 3, 2011 at Karma Ultrasound in Kitchener. Here is how it went:

It is right across the street from the Grand River Hospital, the last place I saw Grandma Philp alive (well, on a breathing machine but still there) and felt her with me a bit.

Had a young woman named Kirby (I know, how cute is that?) as my sonographer and she was lovely, a little nervous. She took about 10 minutes to get a good picture and then called Darryl in. He held my hand as she turned the screen to show us and my heart stopped, it was incredible. Seeing a little baby in there who looks like a baby was amazing! I didn't think it would be so cute but it was!!

Darryl kissed me and I was crying and didn't know it. It was one of the most amazing moments of my life.

He took my to breakfast at Cora's after and we were both so giddy (though I was crazy nauseous) and took our time before heading out to work.

Hard not to smile all day.

Put the photo on our fridge as soon as I got home.

So excited.

May 13, 2011

So I am now 9 weeks along!

Heard from my doctor that the ultrasound we had on Tuesday, May 3 went very well and they were able to pin point conception around March 11/12 (weekend). Haven't gotten over seeing the little baby in there, it was beyond words exciting and scary.

Called the Guelph Midwives to book in (and need to ask my doctor to send them my ultrasound once I'm established there) and they said based on the date, I should be due December 13! My dad's birthday! Yay! And I am on "schedule a" team with the midwives? no idea what that means but I go to meet them May 24th.

Morning sickness this week has really subsided (thank god) and eating smaller, more frequent meals really helped.

Coffee only exists as one ounce with tons of milk, every other day. Still want to cut out completely but proud of progress so far :)

My hair gets 'greasier' looking faster now but my skin looks pretty great.
I had heard your skin take a beating with pregnancy but so far so good. I am a little glowy actually and I like it.
Have been exfoliating and it works. Bought some organic sunscreen, deodorant and make up on esty this week.

Had to move up to a d-cup, but it still looks pretty.

Clothes fit about the same as always, though I prefer comfortable clothing even more now due to chest size.

Have been less tired this week, which is nice.

Have been trying to have a booster juice at least once a week for lunch substitute so I can get the wheat grass shot in (its not delightful but its 2.5 pounds of leafy veg equivalent, something I could never do with this nausea!) so I'm feeling good about it.

Am not exercising as much as I should.
Will try to get on the treadmill more now that the nausea is less overwhelming :)

What's happening in my life:
Meg has her first marathon on Sunday. My parents came and stayed with us for a few days, its really hard to not tell them I'm pregnant!! (i think dad was suspicious when i turned down wine with dinner actually, heehee). But we had a nice visit. Nicole is getting ready for her next school courses. Sam stayed over Wednesday night and we had a great time, went for breakfast together in the morning at Eggcetera. My boss is retiring in three weeks! Thank god as she's not the nicest. Alyssa is moving into her new house in Fort Erie this weekend. Darryl's grandparents are moving into the home this weekend (which is a happy thing, not a sad thing) and he is helping them move tomorrow morning. I'm staying home cause I shouldn't be lifting things right now, we are just a few weeks away from being in the clear!! Darryl got me a card for Soon To Be Mother's Day, I cried.

I can't wait to tell people. Especially my parents and Sam (he must suspect something, no wine).

Feeling great, counting the days to the end of May!